When it comes to finding a counsellor who is the right fit for you, it’s essential to ask the right questions. Here are some considerations and suggestions to guide you in selecting the ideal counsellor:

Trust your instincts: Pay attention to how you feel during your initial conversations with the counsellor. Do you feel safe and comfortable? Is it easy to engage in small talk? Look for someone who is down-to-earth, relatable, and emotionally present. Avoid therapists who come across as distant, overly emotional, or arrogant. Remember, if the counsellor doesn’t feel like a good fit, it’s perfectly acceptable to explore other options.

Philosophy and approach: Understand the counsellor’s general philosophy and approach to helping. Do they approach their clients with compassion and optimism? Do they believe in the inherent capacity for growth and change? A counsellor who holds positive beliefs about human nature can provide a supportive environment for your personal development.

Clarity in their approach: A competent counsellor should be able to clearly define how they can assist you in addressing your specific concerns. They should be able to provide you with a basic outline of their therapeutic approach and help you understand the milestones and indicators of progress along the way.

Encouraging independence: Look for a counsellor who fosters independence rather than dependence. Effective therapy empowers you to solve your own problems and develop self-soothing mechanisms. Avoid therapists who offer quick solutions or excessive emotional support without encouraging you to tap into your own inner resources.

Personal therapy experience: Consider whether the counsellor has undergone their own therapy. Therapists who have gone through their healing journey are often more attuned and equipped to help others. Their personal experience adds depth and insight to their practice.

Specialization and experience: Assess whether the counsellor has experience in addressing the specific issues you seek therapy for. Explore their background and education on their website. The more experience a therapist has in dealing with your concerns, the more expertise they have likely developed.

Licensure: While licensure is not the sole indicator of a therapist’s competence, it signifies that they have completed extensive counseling training, supervised experience, and passed licensing exams. Licensed counsellors generally have a higher level of professional accountability and have undergone more comprehensive training.


  • Seek recommendations: Ask friends who have previously seen counsellors for their recommendations. Referrals often lead to successful matches. However, keep in mind that what works for your friend may not necessarily work for you.
  • Initial consultation: Look for counsellors who offer a free initial consultation over the phone or in person. Prepare a list of questions that are important to you and discuss them during your first meeting.
  • Review their website: Visit the counsellor’s website and look for information related to their experience, approach, or credentials that align with your specific needs.

Feel free to contact me to arrange a free consultation. Together, we can explore how I can assist you on your journey. As a Certified Professional Counsellor in Victoria BC, I am committed to providing the support you need.